at what point would you call it immoral to not confess bisexuality? i'm super extroverted so people don't expect me to be scared when it comes to dating but starting something is hard enough; i would find it almost impossible to say early on unless directly asked

maybe i'm living a different context than the people you're addressing idk. i've never met someone who said they were gay and weren't; that's less common in my age cohort which is probably the only pool of people i'd date from anyway. plus i grew up with one homo friend who probably passed as bi bc it was more acceptable; when we were in university there was something of a cultural movement and a lot of people came out of the closet. some contentedly het people got curious too but i think they've mostly grown out of it by now. hopefully lol i had a bad experience with a young woman who said she was bi and maybe wasn't, even though we didn't have sex i felt like a damnned rapist

btw 100% of lesbians i've ever known, including as friends with zero interest between us, have either clocked me as bi or more vaguely "someone who can dig women" --even when i'm not depressed over any crush people can tell, so i'm not sure how necessary it is to point this out to people

then again i had no clue before reading tumblr diary that lesbians might see bis as gross or std ridden. i mean you'd laugh at me if you heard my life story but despite being probably bi i can't do anything with men. so i don't want to violate anyone's rights but i know for a fact that im not going to transmit anything, is there a rush to talk about it then? should i type up an informational leaflet for people i might want to date?